SAYING YOU ALLOWED ABUSE IS FALSE

When you say you allowed abuse, you are blaming yourself for something over which you had no control. You probably learned to accept this from your partner’s blame and hearing similar media assumptions. Often society makes victims responsible for their abuse, rather than the one who abuses.  

REASONS TO SEE FORGIVENESS AS EMOTIONAL SELF CARE

Seeing forgiveness as emotional self-care may sound strange. Especially if you experienced an abuser telling you to forgive when they haven’t changed. Forgiveness can be premature if done too early. Refocusing on you and your emotions is an important step in healing. Allow yourself to feel anger and find ways to recover from the pain […]

EMOTIONAL ABUSE HEALING TO CONVERT YOUR PAIN TO GROWTH

Emotional abuse healing takes longer than most physical abuse injuries. Every survivor I worked with said that emotional abuse was more difficult to recover from. Research indicates that it has long-term effects on mental and physical health. Physical abuse adds to emotional injuries, such as loss of self-worth when your partner hurts you. Emotional injury […]

EMOTIONAL ABUSE RECOVERY QUESTION: CAN MY PARTNER CHANGE?

Leaving or staying—there is no decision that fits everyone. Each person should consider their circumstances. Trust what you see regarding your partner’s behavior and follow your intuition. The following information helps clarify your situation.

EMPOWERING RESPONSES FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES

Time Out and Broken Record are the last two conflict management skills. As with any assertive skill, assess your safety if someone has a history of being abusive.

HOW TO MAKE EMPOWERING RESPONSES WHEN PEOPLE ARE UPSET

Anger Starvation and Positive Admission are two constructive ways of dealing with another’s anger, disappointment, or frustration.