Category Archives: Self-esteem and Confidence

Wisdom

“A man should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong, which is but saying in other words that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.” Alexander Pope What a wonderful way to acknowledge a mistake without getting stuck in shame. Shame is fueled by beliefs that we should be…

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Poise

Poise is a state of balance. We can see this physically when we view poised people moving with grace and agility. If thrown off balance, they are quickly able to regain it because of their practiced skill. Let’s take that  term apart. Often we give more recognition for skill, as if people possess something intrinsic…

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When Success Eludes Us

It is often an irony that we fear what we also want. We may want success in some particular way, but we are terrified of achieving it and may undermine it. Success brings recognition and that is often very uncomfortable for us. Being visible may have represented danger in the past if we’ve experienced any…

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We are Thinking Machines

We are constantly making meaning of our world through our thoughts.  All thoughts are neither true nor untrue, they simply are.  Thoughts can be stimulated by what we hear from others, from what we see and learn about the world from our direct experiences, and from what we imagine. The fact that we’re constantly having…

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Birthing Your Dreams

 Birthing is for everyone! If you’re male, I hope you don’t stop reading. The metaphor of giving birth is an apt one. Manifesting what we want in life often brings “labor pains”. Rarely does something just fall into our laps. The process involves: setting our intentions, making plans, sorting through options, problem solving issues, ironing…

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How To Be or Not To Be

That is the question – isn’t it? Too often we don’t bring our attention to the perspectives and attitudes we bring to our interactions. I once heard the idea that focusing on To Be lists is just as important as To Do lists. I think this is phenomenally important. Many of us are great at…

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The Work of Your Heart

“Follow Your Bliss.”  Joseph Campbell I’ve always loved this quote from the first time I heard it. That happened during a Bill Moyers documentary on Campbell. Speaking of whom, there is another great man! Often I talk with people who are struggling with the decision of what career path to choose. Sometimes they have trouble…

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Dimming Your Light

When you dim your presence, people can’t find you – because you’re not truly being yourself! All of us have a light within us that is unique and special. We each have something to contribute that no one else on the planet could do in the same way. When we don’t shine our light by…

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Grounding Yourself

Have you ever noticed that when you are most stressed or challenged, you tend to spin in circles? This can happen in the form of racing thoughts, going round and round with worries, resentments, or regrets. It can also literally happen that we go round and round physically, from one task to another. When this…

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Road of Helping Others

“One of her greatest fears is that her partner will change after she leaves and someone else will reap the reward of her effort. She lives between if I can just hang on long enough, he will change  and if I leave and he changes, I will miss out.” Joanna V. Hunter[1]   This seductive…

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