TIPS ON DIVORCING AN ABUSER

Divorce is never easy, and that is especially true for intimate partner abuse survivors. My last blog, Considering Divorce, was a walk-through of the process. During my interview with Holly Slota, attorney at Pines Bach LLP in Madison WI, I asked what issues make it more difficult for survivors. This blog combines her responses with guidance on how to handle each issue.

Considering Divorce

Survivors, as well as those who work with them, will find my interview with Attorney Holly Slota from Pines Bach LLP in Madison, Wisconsin, informative. Those who contemplate leaving often feel fear about the unknown legal system, making an already complicated decision more difficult. Abusers often tell their partners information that is inaccurate because they want to manipulate or frighten them.

Allies for Survivors

Allies are the first pearl in the necklace of insight, hope, and healing. Victims know the difference between an ally and someone who has an agenda.

WE ARE NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO US

The term “victim” does not identify who anyone is, nor does it reflect on their worth. It denotes what happened to them.

Going Beyond Fear of What We Don’t Know

Acknowledging what we don’t know represents strength when we use our curiosity and “inner scientist” to learn about it