BELIEVING YOU DESERVE ABUSE

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Believing you deserve abuse is an injury from coercive control. Abuse damages your belief in your worthiness, leaving you vulnerable to those who want to dominate.

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SAYING YOU ALLOWED ABUSE IS FALSE

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When you say you allowed abuse, you are blaming yourself for something over which you had no control. You probably learned to accept this from your partner’s blame and hearing similar media assumptions. Often society makes victims responsible for their abuse, rather than the one who abuses.  

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REASONS TO SEE FORGIVENESS AS EMOTIONAL SELF CARE

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Seeing forgiveness as emotional self-care may sound strange. Especially if you experienced an abuser telling you to forgive when they haven’t changed. Forgiveness can be premature if done too early. Refocusing on you and your emotions is an important step in healing. Allow yourself to feel anger and find ways to recover from the pain […]

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EMOTIONAL ABUSE RECOVERY QUESTION: CAN MY PARTNER CHANGE?

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Leaving or staying—there is no decision that fits everyone. Each person should consider their circumstances. Trust what you see regarding your partner’s behavior and follow your intuition. The following information helps clarify your situation.

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EMPOWERING RESPONSES FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES

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Time Out and Broken Record are the last two conflict management skills. As with any assertive skill, assess your safety if someone has a history of being abusive.

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GIVING and RECEIVING NEGATIVE FEEDBACK

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This fourth blog in my assertive communication series shows why these skills are important and how to be constructive in their use.

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