THE TIME IT TAKES TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

The time it takes to leave an abusive relationship is the time you need, so let go of any shame or embarrassment about it. Leaving is not the simple, black and white process many think it is. In order to overcome barriers such as gas-lighting, danger, lack of resources, isolation, and self-esteem injuries, you have […]

HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR

Repeated abuse changes how you think about yourself and your abilities. Recovery work includes releasing destructive beliefs and the instilled fear produced by abuse.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE HEALING TO CONVERT YOUR PAIN TO GROWTH

Emotional abuse healing takes longer than most physical abuse injuries. Every survivor I worked with said that emotional abuse was more difficult to recover from. Research indicates that it has long-term effects on mental and physical health. Physical abuse adds to emotional injuries, such as loss of self-worth when your partner hurts you. Emotional injury […]

POSITIVE EXPRESSIONS

Giving and receiving positive expressions are the next skills in my assertive communication series that began with Assertive Beliefs. It covers two of four feedback skills. Each article in this series includes exercises for learning and practicing assertive skills. Some do not think of giving and receiving positive feedback as being assertive. However, assertiveness is […]

RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY AFTER BETRAYAL

Recovery together or apart requires accountability, ability to look at one’s self, a willingness to let go and forgive if staying together, or a willingness to rebuild trust in yourself and others if the relationship doesn’t continue.

GRIEF AS PART OF HEALING

Grief is always a normal and important part of healing for intimate partner abuse survivors.