The need for “Connection” is one of the signs that draw us into any relationship, whether intimate, work related, friendship, or professional. We become committed and want them to continue if we value them. Trust is a necessary element in order to invest in people. As social beings, we benefit from the complex inter-relationships that […]
Another seductive highway for controlling relationships is fear of being alone.This road is well traveled by many men and women, regardless of whether they have an abusive relationship. Relationship billboards promise “Companionship” and “Love” which is something we are naturally attracted to since we are social animals. Many of us want to have children and […]
I’m no longer a daughter. Losing one’s mother is one of life’s big transitions. As she taught me in life, she has also taught me through her death. Being patient: with myself and my grieving process. with all the numerous details to be dealt with when someone leaves this world. with all the complications that […]
Have you ever thought about whether aggression is innate? This morning I watched the hummingbirds around my feeders and was fascinated by their behavior! Because I knew they were very territorial, I had decided to put a second feeder in so that more birds could share in the wealth. One female hummingbird totally dominated both […]
I recently became a grandma for the first time! Spending time with my daughter and new grandchild has been wonderful. It has slowed down my writing, but the rewards are worth it. This experience has led me to contemplate afresh what happens when we start anything new. No matter how much we want something, it […]
In an ideal world, all of our experiences growing up would be positive. Our family members would unfailingly give affirming messages about ourselves, ones that told us we were worthy of love. This kind of treatment would get internalized as positive beliefs and thoughts, such as “I’m a good person” or “I’m love-able”. Unfortunately, our […]
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