Tag Archive for: intimate partner violence

HOW TO OVERCOME BARRIERS TO HEALING

Safety issues and concerns about the best interests of children were barriers to healing mentioned in Healing and Creating a New Life. This blog addresses two important ones that affect safety and family welfare. It ends with a list of resources to help overcome barriers to healing. They help you know the best ways to […]

THE TIME IT TAKES TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

The time it takes to leave an abusive relationship is the time you need, so let go of any shame or embarrassment about it. Leaving is not the simple, black and white process many think it is. In order to overcome barriers such as gas-lighting, danger, lack of resources, isolation, and self-esteem injuries, you have […]

ACCEPT WHAT YOU SEE TO REGAIN YOUR POWER

To regain your power in an abusive relationship, you must name what is happening and accept it. Accept what is. Despite how painful that is. Accepting does not mean you approve, agree, or are okay with it. It is also not forgetting or pretending the abuse didn’t occur.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE RECOVERY QUESTION: CAN MY PARTNER CHANGE?

Leaving or staying—there is no decision that fits everyone. Each person should consider their circumstances. Trust what you see regarding your partner’s behavior and follow your intuition. The following information helps clarify your situation.

HOW TO MAKE EMPOWERING RESPONSES WHEN PEOPLE ARE UPSET

Anger Starvation and Positive Admission are two constructive ways of dealing with another’s anger, disappointment, or frustration.

ASSERTIVE BELIEFS

Assertive Beliefs is the seventh blog in my empowerment series for victims of partner abuse. You must believe you have the right to be assertive before using skills: this article builds that foundation. It covers definitions, benefits, beliefs that may interfere, an assertiveness skills list, and steps to work on the belief that you have the right to stand up for yourself.