Tag Archive for: coercive control

BELIEVING YOU DESERVE ABUSE

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Believing you deserve abuse is an injury from coercive control. Abuse damages your belief in your worthiness, leaving you vulnerable to those who want to dominate.

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SAYING YOU ALLOWED ABUSE IS FALSE

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When you say you allowed abuse, you are blaming yourself for something over which you had no control. You probably learned to accept this from your partner’s blame and hearing similar media assumptions. Often society makes victims responsible for their abuse, rather than the one who abuses.  

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EMOTIONAL ABUSE HEALING TO CONVERT YOUR PAIN TO GROWTH

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Emotional abuse healing takes longer than most physical abuse injuries. Every survivor I worked with said that emotional abuse was more difficult to recover from. Research indicates that it has long-term effects on mental and physical health. Physical abuse adds to emotional injuries, such as loss of self-worth when your partner hurts you. Emotional injury […]

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EMOTIONAL ABUSE RECOVERY QUESTION: CAN MY PARTNER CHANGE?

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Leaving or staying—there is no decision that fits everyone. Each person should consider their circumstances. Trust what you see regarding your partner’s behavior and follow your intuition. The following information helps clarify your situation.

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EMPOWERING RESPONSES FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES

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Time Out and Broken Record are the last two conflict management skills. As with any assertive skill, assess your safety if someone has a history of being abusive.

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HOW TO MAKE EMPOWERING RESPONSES WHEN PEOPLE ARE UPSET

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Anger Starvation and Positive Admission are two constructive ways of dealing with another’s anger, disappointment, or frustration.

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