Toxic Femininity and Masculinity

“The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl.” June 1918[i] Surprising, isn’t it? This quote illustrates how gender […]

Teen Dating Violence

Intimate partner violence (IPV) is not just an adult thing. It’s common among teens. The Center for Disease Control indicates that 7 percent of high schoolers experienced sexual violence by a dating partner, and 8 percent indicated physical violence.[i] However, the numbers are much higher when we include emotional and verbal abuse. “More than 60 […]

Partners’ Accountability

When you’ve been harmed by an intimate partner, you want them to be accountable for their behavior. You may spend a lot of time asking for this.  It’s hard to believe that a loved one can risk the relationship rather than take responsibility for what they’ve done and seek to make changes. When they say […]

DOMESTIC TERRORISM

If you’ve had an intimate partner hurt you emotionally, physically, or sexually, you may not have thought of it as terrorism. But I bet you’ve felt terror. Sociologist Albert D. Biderman constructed the Chart of Coercion decades ago to describe tactics designed to break the will of captured pilots. Advocates working with intimate partner violence […]